Said ex probably likes people who share similar qualities (mountain biking! ) and you guys have probably all pal-ed around together for months, maybe even years; it makes that you might be attracted to ex's friend. For all you know, your ex just wasn't that into it and might be stoked to see you move on to someone who's better suited for you. Accusations and tears may flow as freely as the alcohol that you're likely consuming. Don't self loathe, wallow or spiral into misery, that's not gonna make anyone's pain go away and it sure as hell isn't going to pave a smooth foundation for your new love-fest. If I break up with someone — and I have broken up and been broken up with a lot — I have no problem with any of my friends dating my ex, falling in love with her and even marrying her.
Unless you're a terrible person, you probably don't want to trample your ex's heart in the process of nurturing your new flame. And, guess what, your new squeeze—who just might be a nice person! As noted journalist Mary Schmich once said, "don't be reckless with other people's hearts." There's no need to punch an innocent bystander in their tender bits because you've gotten burned or are pining for someone else. If you were the one who got dumped however, we think you have a little more leverage in pursuing your ex's pal; after all s/he didn't want you anymore, right? I don’t care if it’s a casual acquaintance, I don’t care if it’s your best friend in the whole world, and I don’t care who broke up with whom.
But if you’re wondering how to go about dating your friend’s ex, and you think the pursuit might really have potential, don’t worry, you are not a terrible person.But you do need to make sure you go about this right.Luckily, a woman can approach this in pretty much the same way a man does, and that’s where I can help a sister out.Depending on the situation, it might either be a funny coincidence or something that could tear apart a friend group.Here are a few rules to keep in mind when trying to figure out whether it makes sense to start something up with your ex boyfriend's bro.Jennifer Aniston and bestie Courtney Cox were both romantically linked with Counting Crows frontman Adam Duritz - and Katy Perry and Taylor Swift both had relationships with John Meyer (though that one did cause Bad Blood).Simply say, “Look, I just thought you should know that (their exes name) and I have gone on a few dates. I mean, we've heard the charming phrases like "bros before hos" and "chicks over dicks" so frequently that the notion is ingrained into our minds: Don't date your ex's buddy and don't date your friend's ex. Without rhyme, reason, logic and common sense, we often find ourselves inexplicably attracted to someone. True friendship and true love are both elusive the key is trying to get them both! The lover in question might not be worth causing a rift in your friendship.SO a few months ago my boyfriend of two years and I split… We are friends now, but there is still some clear tension between us.MEANWHILE, I have started showing interest in a mutual friend of ours.